13 Character Traits – #1

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#2 will be on its way to you shortly.

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7 Responses to "13 Character Traits – #1"

  1. Hi,

    I really appreciate your piece on the 13 Character traits. In the first one you mention the responsibility and the capacity to generate their own state. I assume that capacity is a continual process of discovery, practice and mastery. It would be great to hear your thoughts about this.

    I look forward to the next twelve and plan to bring them to a girls group that multiple families are participating to foster core strength, focus on their goals and strategies and practices to focus on what they want. Thanks for the inspirational way towards what you bring to the youth, young adults and parents/non-parents.



  2. Absolutely true that taking control of your life is all about living inside-out. Isn’t that what most teens want, to feel that they are in control of their own lives, happiness, etc? Looking forward to the next one.

  3. Interesting, even for an “older adult”. Glad you brought this to my attention. I’ll surely read each of the following issues.

  4. Sounds great so far.
    I personally am focused on helping parents support their kids in ways that allow them to stay in touch with themselves and individuate enough to resist that ever-present pressure toward conformity.
    Looking forward to hear how you help teens who lack this crucial support.
    And can you clarify something for me: how are you using “extraordinary.” I ask because one of the things that I see as handicapping kids in our culture is this idea that everyone is, or needs to be, extraordinary. This constant “pumping kids up” leads to lot’s of narcissistic traits and a loss of real resilience and capacity for self-regulation. I am pretty sure this is not where you are headed, but maybe you could clarify.


  5. Hi Chris,

    Thanks for taking the time to comment. I do not see the use of “extraordinary” used this way. In fact, I rarely hear anyone use the term aside from attaching it to an action or accomplishment.

    I more commonly hear what you are referring to in the use of words like “special”. I never use that term. I also don’t talk about self-esteem, or many of the popular self-help favorite topics. I think the vast majority of work done in that industry leads people to become even more self-oriented, something that is at the very core of what is going wrong with our society. But that is another conversation…

    The 13 traits you are reading about here are the descriptive qualities of what I refer to as being extraordinary. Ultimately, this is a way of life that flows from a way of being. In my work, ontology is everything.

    The next 11 are on their way – slowly but surely!

    Best regards,

  6. Nice article, but would love more on the ‘how-to,’ etc, how to teach teens to “have the capacity to generate their state (mindset, physical response, beliefs, etc) from Inside themselves.”

    Would love more on how to induce “the shift” referenced here: “The impact making this shift has on their lives, is something to behold.”

    All in all, I find this article a tantalizing teaser but missing some meat. Maybe not something you can convey in these articles…


  7. Katie,

    Thanks for your comments. I teach my clients how to do this using the MythoSelf Process. This is an Attention Training – quite literally identifying for people where they need to deliberately be putting their attention so that they can easily do what I have described here.

    It is a combination of somatics (what to be doing with their body as in what muscles to flex, which ones to relax), perceptual filtering (teaching them what to be attending to in the outside world), behaviors (teaching them functional skills) and semantics (retraining the way they make sense of things that happen in life – personal mythology).

    You are correct in that I cannot teach how I do this in brief written report – I have spent 13 years studying this work and am a Master Trainer of it. I can do significant work training others in how to do this for themselves, often in just a few hours.

    If you are interested in experiencing it, I can point you in the right direction. Depending on where you are geographically, either I or one of the highly trained facilitators of this can take you through it. It really is remarkable!

    Best regards,
    Jeff Leiken

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